Why does it seem that women are afraid to say no when asked to be engaged? I’ve known a few who seemed to hate their boyfriend only to later say yes.
Also, doesn’t it seem that when men are about to be dumped they lug out the marriage proposal weapon?
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
I’ve turned down a proposal. My ex proposed to me after we broke up (we were still trying to be friends, or so I thought).
Very awkward, but I’m glad I was up front about it.
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
Im sure there have been turn downs but I see you point about the proposal weapon,lol. I think it is equally ridiculous to give an ultimatum. I would never have wanted to know I forced my husband to marry me.
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
lol… that’s so funny you say this….
My fiance proposed to me the first time when we were arguing and had a few issues. I said NO.. Wasn’t going to do it. I wasn’t ready and wasn’t going to feel pressured. He asked me a few months later and i felt that he was definitely the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
But he definitely pulled the proposal weapon when we were about to split.
He bought the ring in December 2008. Was going to propose July 25, 2009, but bumped it up to two weeks before. He ended up proposing again on our 3 year anniversary in September of 2009.
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
Yes I have, because I’m one of those women that turned down 2 marriage proposals. It’s not that the men I dated we’re not special. But I had no interest in marriage because I had been married before, and I didn’t want to get married at that time in my life. Not to long after each marriage proposal they ended the relationship, because I refused to consider getting married. I very much loved, and cared for these two men, but I couldn’t bring myself to say yes to their marriage proposals.
Three years after the last marriage proposal, I met and married my last and best love. I knew he was the right one for me the moment we met. After a one year courtship, we we’re married in a small ceremony. Now we have 2 boys, and twin girls on the way. I’m very glad that I stuck by my decision not to marry the wrong person.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
Yeah, I’ve turned down a marriage proposal. I was with my ex for 12 years but I don’t want to get married to anyone as I don’t believe in it. Not all women are afraid to say no.
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
my sister turned down 3. She said that she wasn’t ready at the time. She is now married (seven years later).
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
I know of quite a few marriage proposals that were answered with a no. A guy I was seeing very casually a few years ago, proposed to me. I told him no because of many reasons, but mostly because I was young and not ready for a serious relationship or a commitment of that sort. He wanted a serious relationship when I wanted extremely casual. I’m still not sure where the proposal came from (he could have just asked to be exclusive or move in together or something), but there are just times in people’s relationships where one person wants more and the other is not ready.
July 11th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
I turned down a marriage proposal. I said no because at the time I was only a high school freshman and I had only been with my boyfriend for a month. When I told my boyfriend why I couldn’t get engaged, he told me he understood and would ask me again later. When we had been dating for two years, he asked me, and again, I said no. I broke up with him after three years of dating. I’m now 20 years old and I’m in no rush to be engaged or get married. I love being single and seeing what kinds of guys are out there.
I totally agree with you though. When I told my boyfriend I wanted to break up, he was like "No! Let’s get engaged!" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.