My boyfriend and I decided to get marry next month nothing big but the sooner the better. I have no idea what the rules about the rings are. Is he suppose to buy me an engagement ring and then a wedding ring or can you buy them as a pair and just wear one until you’re marry or do you need to have an engagement ring and buy a separate one to get married. Help!
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May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Either way you want. We bought mine as a set and bought his separately. They don’t match, but we didn’t care. I wear the engagement ring now and will wear the set when we’re married. Honestly I think it’s better to buy as a set because you can’t always find a band to match the engagement ring.
After you’re married the band goes on your finger first and then the engagement ring unless you have a ring jacket(that’s what we got).
May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Generally what happens is you have an engagement ring as a symbol of a proposal and a promise to be married. You wear that from the proposal (or in your case, whenever your fiance gets you the ring), up to your wedding. Then, a separate ring is placed on your finger during a wedding ceremony. The two rings sit on your ring finger on your left hand together. I suppose you could buy them as a pair so that it would match once you get married, however, you would only wear the engagement until the wedding, where you would then wear both. You can also buy them separately, but risk them not matching. Hope that helped.
May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Buying them as a pair may cost less. But it’s really a personnel choice. There’s no law or rule one needs to go by, it’s what you both want to do. Have a happy marriage!
May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
It depends on what you want, if you want a set then you get them both at the same time and wear only the engagement ring until the wedding, and if you want separates you can get them either way, but the only ring you wear until the wedding is the engagement ring.
An engagement ring is for the engagement, the wedding ring is for the wedding.
You may do without the engagement ring, but you need a wedding ring.
May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
What I have seen lots of times is the engagement ring is purchased first (of course) then later before the wedding, the man buys the wedding ring that goes with it. If it’s a plain band with a solitaire on it, it will be easier to find a band to match/go with it. Sometime before the wedding, the rings are taken to the jeweler to have them soldered together. It’s always better to have your rings soldered as it will prevent extensive wear on the the rings. Over time, the gold will get thinner from the rings rubbing against each other.
May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
When you go to buy a ring, you basically have to choices: A) buy an engagement ring that is sold alone, and purchase a wedding ring that is also sold seprately, or B) buy a ‘bridal set’ or also known as the engagement and wedding ring sold together to match. You can do it either way. But when you are engaged you only where your engagment ring with is usually the one with the bigger stone/more blingy one. Then when you exchange your rings at your wedding, you will get your smaller band to go next to your engagement ring.
So really, its all about what you like. Go look at rings. If the jeweler shows you one individual ring, then assume you need to buy a wedding ring either that day, or later on. If the rings as 2-3 bands, then it is the engagement and wedding bands (some have two wedding bands). But the jeweler can show you specifically. Good luck and Congrats.
May 19th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Traditionally, your boyfriend would buy you an engagement ring. Then, you would both buy the wedding rings – one for each of you. However, some women want the engagement ring and wedding ring to match so you could buy both at the same time.
These days, it’s sort of however you want. The ring is a symbol of unity and coming together so you might want to buy one ring for each of you.