I’m not rushing since we’ve only been engaged a couple of months. I just don’t want to be one of those couples that’s still engaged after like 5 years. That just seems too long to me. We have talked about it a little bit and he says we will just know when it’s a good time. I want our finances and careers in order first also. Maybe I love him so much that I’m just being impatient.
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May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
everyone’s engagement is different. set a timeline and figure out how long you both need to get your careers going. also you need a saving plan to have the $$$$$ for the wedding so get started with that. maybe after a year of saving you’ll have quite a bit and he’ll see it’s not so daunting to pay for a wedding.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
It totally depends on the couple and what works best for them.
Though honestly I think 1-3 years is the most you should call it an engagement. Anything over that is way too long really. Why get engaged if you aren’t actually ready to get married? I mean you can know you will be with someone forever without having to be engaged. Engaged = getting married relatively soon. Not several years later lol.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
Both of you, if you’re serious should be cake tasting, interviewing photographers, DJ’s, caterers, bands, pastors, limo companies, etc.
If after 1 year of engagement there is no forward progress, then you, he, or both of you are just dilly dallying around.
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May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
For some people its a few months, for others it is years.
Unless you have a reason — work, school, away for military — anything more than 2 years is getting into "too long" territory.
For us, it was just under 2 years because I wanted to be finished with school, I had to relocate and I wanted to have at least a year at my new job before taking time off for a wedding.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
We were engaged for over 2 years, but we were actively planning the wedding the whole time. We just needed some time to save up the money to have the day that we wanted.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
usually around 6 months, but it can be just a few weeks, or maybe even years.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
I would say the average engagement is 1-2 years. It’s just whatever works out for you as a couple. My husband and I were only engaged for 7 months. The average for all my friends has been around 6-9 months. 7 months was a perfect amount of time for us, and I wouldn’t have wanted it to be any longer!
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
I’d say that an engagement means that plans for a wedding are in order. There is no magical amount of time. But if you’re "engaged" and haven’t even talked a time table, it sounds like one or both of you is just messing around for one reason or the other.
The average engagement I’d say lasts a year to a year and a half. We’re planning our wedding in 6 months due to available military leave time. Any less time and I’d have to cut corners.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
I’ve planned my wedding in 2 months. We started end of September and will finish everything next week, and have the ceremony in February 2010. I would wait, if I could, at least a year and a half, only because I would want to take longer to plan everything and to make sure people are able to come. Even though we had to plan it quickly, its still a very elegant event. My fiancee is military, so we are going for it before he leaves. We were actually engaged in April 2009, but we had no plans to do it this quickly. I wanted to wait and start planning at the beginning of 2010, but since the military called, you know how that goes!!
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
it took us 2 years after we go engaged
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
Its going to be a little under a year for me. We got engaged in June of this year and will be married in May of 2010.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
Depends how much time/money you have to plan the wedding you want. Also, it can depend on when you want to get married (what time of year) and what is available when you get engaged. We got engaged in february and are getting married in a month (december). it worked out well because i wanted a winter wedding, but if I had wanted a summer wedding, we would have been engaged about a year and a half.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
I think if depends on how old you are, i.e. if you’re 18, you may want to wait 5 years. If you’d 35 and have known each other for a while then I’d probably be making plans right away. I wouldn’t be happy if I was engaged more than a year without a wedding date in site.
May 1st, 2010 at 9:38 pm
We were married only 9 weeks after getting engaged… quite enough time to organise a wedding! LOL.
I would have suggested 3 to 6 months is quite long enough, though 1 yr was the traditional length.
Anything over that is getting rediculous… you have made the decision; get on with it!