I have been living with my boyfriend about a year and a half. We have been together for a few months more than that. We are very close and open with one another. We are young… (22 and 26) but we are both mature and have decent jobs. We talk about marriage often and we both want to marry each other. My brother recently made some off the cuff comments to him about how long he is taking. Should I be expecting him to step up soon?
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April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
I think it varies. I know people who have been together for 10 years but they’re not yet married (since high school). I’ve been with my bf for 4 years this june and I still haven’t gotten a ring yet (but then again were only 21 and still have to wait till we finish school next year). And personally, I think that 1 and a half year is not long enough (no offense) but I guess that’s just me.
I think you shouldn’t put any pressure on him. You guys can talk about it but don’t force him to do it. Doing so might just break you guys apart.
If I were you, I wouldn’t mind what other people say. As long as you’re together and are happy, why rush? All that really matter is that you love each other.
In any case, either you can talk to him about it or make the move!
Goodluck!
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
My first reaction is to ask why he needs to be the one to step up? If you are serious about the relationship and getting married then it shouldn’t matter who asks who. If you are ready and think it is time, then I say you should go for it.
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
I met my wife at 3:30 in the afternoon,proposed to her at 7 pm,and married her the next weekend. That was 9 wonderful years ago…
Yeah,your guy should have popped the question long ago…
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
me and my husband were together for about 5 months before we decided to get married, we were together for 6 months exactly to the day when we got married, dont pay any attention to your brother, and tell him the same thing. When he is ready he will propose, he wants it to be a surprise, so just wait. Me and my husband have been happily married for almost a year and half, and i do mean happily, we are coming up on our two year anniversary of being together. Just go along with it, and he may surprise you in the near future. Good luck, and congratulations when it happens.
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
Women of today need to change their habits and stop moving in with guys they say they love. IF a man respects you, he will want to marry you FIRST, then move in together. Women are making it too easy for men. Give him a time limit and if he doesn’t agree to marry you he is probably not that committed to the relationship. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that?
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
yes, it is time
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
There is a no time frame, if it feels right, WHEN it feels right, he will propose
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
i believed in waiting ten years for ONE person i thought was pure destiny.
i waited another 5 years for a 2nd one, now, im single and too old to marry. for that matter im unemployable now and i never caught the ship to my fortunes, but then again, i remember i made a vow of poverty because i thought it was the righteous thing to do at age TEN.
realistically if a guy does not propose in two years you have waited to long.
this is one of my mistakes. i was waiting for the women to have a divine revelation, which never happened that i know of,
i have fallen in LOVE 11 times in my life and have personally liked about 25 girls. i dont think any of them really knew i loved them. or believed in eternal marriage.
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
It is the mans job to do the proposing. But you can’t rush him. Now if you were together for like 7 years and still nothing…I’d be saying something… but 1 1/2…you don’t have anything to worry about.Just give him time. Im sure hes just trying to plan it perfect.
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
I’m more of a Sadie Hawkins kinda gal myself. I say step up, bring up the topic, and you could ask what concerns he has. That will bring about the reasons why he may not have said anything. He may be saving for a ring, you never know.
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
With my new husband we accidentally started living together after 3 days… we did have 2 homes for 6 months. We talked about marriage on and off after about 2 months. After 5 months he made a joking comment and I kind of made a marriage proposal in return… later that night we realized it was what we both wanted and later that week went engagement ring shopping. We married 3 months later. If you feel it, don’t wait… be happy.
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
Why should he bother? He’s got all the conveniences of a wife without any of the messy legal entanglements…
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
My husband and I got married after dating for 2 weeks. It all depends on the 2 of you. But when you know…you just know!
Good luck hun!
April 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am
He won’t ever if he keeps getting told about a "timeframe".