We’ve been best friends since we were in diapers and has already made me his best man. His wedding is in June 2011(they will be engaged for 2.5 years) and I plan on having mine early spring (end April, early May). The house I’m building with my girlfriend will be done in September 2010 so my girlfriend wants to have a bridal registry soon so she could get things for the house. Finally we won’t be inviting the same people.
11 Responses
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Yes it is so wrong! there is nothing wrong with getting engaged but DO NOT put your wedding date before theirs Not cool!
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Not wrong at all. Your wedding wouldn’t cause any interference with their own so I don’t see why it would be a problem. If they feel they own the year, they are wrong.
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
No, it’s not wrong. Your loyalty should now be to your future wife.
If you were doing things just to spite your friend, that would be dirty. But you are just living your life so your friend should understand.
If he doesn’t, oh well. You have a (future) wife to worry about. Your friend isn’t the one who’ll be keeping you warm at night. You know?
Hope this helps.
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Nothing wrong at all with you 2 getting married next spring. The world does not stop because someone else’s wedding is in the plan. Next June is a very long time away and there are tons of months in between. As long as you dont pick the same date as your friend, you 2 should get married whenever you feel is the right time. Spring of 2011 sounds like a perfect time for your wedding . Good luck!
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
no why would it be
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Why would it be wrong?
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
It shouldn’t matter. I don’t see a problem.
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
it is only an issue if you were to get married 2 weeks before or less, as you would still be on your honeymoon for their wedding, or still be in the afterglow of your own and not be able to perform your duties as best man properly.
if someone chooses to have a long engagement, they cant get narky if someone gets married before them. you are leaving plenty of time between weddings, and have a good reason for having when you are. also, the guests aren’t the same, so there isn’t an issue of clashing guest lists which is one of the main concerns when it comes to weddings close together.
i would still discuss it with him beforehand. just say to him "hey, guess what! me and girlfriend are getting married! we were thinking of having in April/May, just checking this doesnt clash with any plans you’ve made so far, and ill be on honeymoon from date-date so could you keep that in mind when making future plans?" you dont have to do this, but it really is polite.
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Your friend gets a wedding day, not a wedding year. So no, it’s not wrong. The only thing that would have been wrong was if you scheduled the same day as he did, or set your date when you KNEW he’d be unavailable (such as the honeymoon) then guilted him for not being able to be in your wedding.
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Your marriage plans do not depend on his marriage plans…just don’t select the same day, that’s all.
April 17th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Our friends did that to us, and she was even given a ring almost identical to mine for her engagement and it really pi**ed me off. Its not cool