Both parties have been dating for a while and have been talking about a future life together. What could make a girl say "No" to the wedding proposal?
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Both parties have been dating for a while and have been talking about a future life together. What could make a girl say "No" to the wedding proposal?
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
Too early.
She’s not ready emotionally.
She’s not ready financially.
She feels she’s not old enough yet, or wants to finish college first.
YOU’RE not ready emotionally or financially (or for any of the other reasons), and she knows that you need time! I’d ask her. It may just end up that she just doesn’t want to marry you.
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
Too early to ask…
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
Not knowing the guy well enough, fear of commitment. If she has brought the subject of marriage up in a good way, this is probably the go ahead to ask the big question!
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
She’s just not that into you…
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
maybe she just doesnt believe in marriage in general, i dont want to get married but thats simply because i dont think marriage is necessary anymore
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March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
She means no, she does not want to. She may enjoy dating but not want to marry now OR marry him.
OR
She needs longer, she is not sure about his committment?
She feels it is not the right time?
She wants to be more settled or secure?
Does she trust him?
Does she feel they are financially stable as a couple?
Do they want the same things in life?
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
Were asked way too soon.
Not ready to make a commitment
Feel that they are not financially secure
Want to continue education
Not sure that they are with the right person for them.
Not in love
The bf has a bad habit that is unacceptable, such as drugs, abusive, alcoholism.
Been hurt badly previous to present relationship
Lack of trust
Lived in unhappy family
Does not want to have children or be tied down to a family
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
She’s not ready for marriage, or maybe doesn’t feel she knows you well enough yet. Or maybe she just doesn’t want to get married. That doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t want a long term relationship with you.
Ask her why she said no, and if it’s no for right now or no forever.
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
Man has a few bad habits to break first…smoking,drinking,lazy,eating too much, dirty, poor,no money.She wants to change a few things in her life before saying yes.
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
Fear of committment?
Having said that I think she may just not be as inlove with him as he thinks. If she was truly inlove then I don’t think anything would stop her from wanting to be his wife.
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
She has concerns about the guy, especially if he is stable. This doesn’t just mean finances, though it often does; it could mean she’s not sure she can trust him to be relied on.
She’s cheating on him or is interested in another guy and knows she can’t accept a proposal because of this.
She doesn’t want to be tied down; she wants to live her own life without being married.
The thought of weddings make her want to hurl.
She was thinking about breaking up with him anyway and this presents a do-or-die situation.
She loves him but knows she doesn’t really want to be with him forever.
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
I said no to 3 guys when I was in college.
2 reasons for every time.
1) the lifestyle they wanted in the future was not the one I wanted for me. Each wanted to live a certain way and I knew it was not for me (they were all very religious, I did not believe the same as they did).
2) I grew up with all the women in my family getting married at a young age and all these same women preached to live on your own, take the time to mature and then find the person who brings out the best in you.
I lived on my own for 8 years before finding the person I married. I handled my own bills, cleaned my own house, mowed my own yard, called repair men. I decided how I wanted to live my life. THEN I found the person who made me even better. Its called maturing.
I’m a widow now (he died at age 45) and have been dating again. I am glad that I know how to be on my own and not rush into another relationship just to not be alone. I need to be picky to make sure the next person is good for me. I even think he would be proud that I can stand on my own two feet.
March 12th, 2010 at 9:39 am
She’s waiting on another possibility. Aka: She wants someone else, but they haven’t gotten that far.