I just want to know what people think. I am not getting married, I already am. I really just want to know what people think. Is an engagement ring necessary??
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I just want to know what people think. I am not getting married, I already am. I really just want to know what people think. Is an engagement ring necessary??
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
I proposed to my Fiancee without a ring, and we spend an enjoyable time shopping for one together later. For me, knowing how picky she can be, I wanted her to choose a ring that she was happy with, and it guaranteed that the size was correct.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Definatly its the icing on the cake
its like going to bed when your
not tired its worthless!!!
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
My FH proposed without the ring, though he is planning to get me one.
It’s merely a lasting token and symbol of the request and acceptance in my eyes, and not really necessary.
It’s a lovely extra touch – but I would never have said no to my FH for not having the ring or even getting one later. It’s him I want, not a diamond
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
You know it’s really a cultural thing and about doing what’s socially acceptable. When my then boyfriend and I decided we would get married we didn’t do the ring thing. Although I was raised in the States and getting an engagement ring was part of the culture I grew up in, where I lived when I got "engaged" it wasn’t part of societal norm. It’s only a material token, a symbol. And who doesn’t love diamonds. But I don’t think it’s a bad thing if you don’t get one.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
No its not necessary. It is nice but only if people can afford one.
I know a guy who took a Oring off his harley when he proposed.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
I was proposed to with a mock engagement ring and then my Fiance and I picked it out together. He knew that I have a specific taste in my jewlery and were as I love everything he gets me this was a bit more specific and he wanted to get it together. I loved his proposal to me. I am the luckiest woman in the world, I got two rings. hahaha
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Well, it proves that you thought it through, that you know her taste in jewelry, that you care for and trust her enough to invest a lot of money in a token of that, and every girl wants to show off the ring.
The only thing I can suggest is have getting to pick out her own ring be part of the proposal, but if a guy had proposed to me without a ring, I dunno if I’d be so willing. It means he wasn’t paying attention enough to know what I like in jewelry or caring enough to give me what every girl dreams of.
And cost can’t really be an excuse b/c you’re meant to save over time and the ring is to the scale of what you can afford.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
My fiance proposed to me without a ring! We picked one out later. I guess it depends on people’s views of what an engagement should be. Some women want the man down on one knee with a ring. Others don’t. He proposed to me, out of the blue, in the rain, on a corner in Amsterdam.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
It is not necessary. I had a friend whose fiance couldn’t afford a ring at the time he proposed but he didn’t want to wait on proposing until he could afford it.
They ended up getting a fancier wedding ring.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
I don’t have an engagement ring, just a wedding band. My husband and I have much more worthwhile things to spend our money on rather than lavish jewelry.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Not necessary. Its only a material symbol. I have one, but it wasn’t expensive at all, and I really didn’t want to have one, but he insisted. I’d rather use the money for something more useful, like towards a house.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
It really is unnecessary. Customary, yes, but still unnecessary.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
as much as I like to think I’m wicked cool and liberal about relationships, I’m not marrying anyone who doesn’t give me diamonds. I hate myself for saying that! I’m really not very conventional and I don’t like all the trite wedding BS but the act of proposing to spend your life with someone should be marked with an item of value (a ring) to prove your commitment, I think.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
I have to say that deep down I would be disappointed. If you’re really serious about someone, you know their financial condition, and if MY husband were to propose without a ring, it wouldn’t be right. I know he can well afford a ring, so him not giving one would be odd.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
I always get thumbs down for this question and I’m not sure why. Do I care that other people get engaged without rings? Nope. I know that sometimes money is tight or the couple don’t want rings.
Would I want a proposal without a ring? No. I think a ring signifies on the outside what I feel on the inside, and it is a token that I am now taken and committed for life to one person. I would be disappointed to be proposed to without a ring.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
It’s tacky.
April 14th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
A ring says that he means business. It can work without one but enough of my past bf’s asked me about marriage and none of them had a ring to the point that now if I was asked without a ring, I’m not sure how serious I can take the proposal. But that’s just me.