And how old do you think they should be?
Say if two 20 year olds get engaged how long should they have dated vs two 30 year olds?
Just curious to see what some of your opinions are.
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And how old do you think they should be?
Say if two 20 year olds get engaged how long should they have dated vs two 30 year olds?
Just curious to see what some of your opinions are.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
In my opinion age has little time to do with it. I think a year is the least amount of time, 2-3years is a good average and you’re out of the honeymoon faze completely and you really know each other. Of course every couple is a little different. As long as they’re 18 it’s fine by me.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
I think you honestly just know.. it is something between you and your partner and you both have to be ready.. one cannot push it on another. I myself moved in with now hubby after 5 months, got engaged at 9 months, got married after 2 years. When we got engaged I was 20 he was 24 years old. I wouldn’t encourage a lot of young people to follow my path because it is just that.. the path I chose but it may not work out well for others.. Again my opinion is when both people are 100% committed and ready.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
I think age doesn’t matter at all. But someone older like 30, may be ready to settle down faster then someone who is young and still has more to experience before they settle down. But if you get to know someone and you guys bond and share many special things in common and choose to get engaged then it doesn’t matter how long you’ve known each other. whats important is that your both committed and ready for that step. some people may get to know each other and 2 months later fall in love and marry. then they live a happy life and 30+ years of marriage.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
I think that is not a appropriate time to get engaged its all about fillings. If u know in your heart that the person that you are with is the right person for you then thats all that counts and you should go for it, but if you are not sure about something hold off and see if you can get a answer or a confession but do not rush into marriage take your time…..
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
a week a month or few days is also enough to understand your partner..if you accept ur partner whole heartedly no problem or misunderstandings will come in your way.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
Honestly, when you’re 20 you change so much during the next 4 or 5 years, I would give it that much time just so that you know yourself and the other person. When you’re 30 you should know what you want in life and be comfortable with yourself (for the most part anyway, everyone feels inadequate every once in a while)
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
I’m 22 and I’ve been with my 26-year-old boyfriend for a year-and-a-half. When we finally got AROUND to discussing the possibility of marriage at all between us (after more than a year together), I learned that he thought 2-3 years of dating was best before an engagement, and I was looking at 3-4. It shocked us both, as I thought he would honestly date 5-8 years before even considering it; I never imagined his number would be more conservative than mine.
The amount of time people should date depends on the people, and the couple. In general, I think that people younger than me have no business getting married. They’re often wallowing in school-related debt, or they’re in dead-end jobs that wouldn’t possibly allow them to support a family. That aside…you’ve got to have some time for yourself.
Believe me…I feel a lot of pressure to start settling down, partly because so many people in my family did, and so many did in my boyfriend’s as well. His sister has been married for a year–she’s 23 now. But, that was her decision, however poorly I feel she made it…
I think that two 20-year-olds shouldn’t be getting engaged, regardless of how long they’ve been dating. There will always, always, always be time later on to get hitched. If things are bad off financially at the start of a marriage, they may continue to be that way indefinitely. Getting started on the right foot is very important. My brother also got married at 22 – in poor financial circumstances – and, I believe partly because of a lack of experience and maturity, completely botched the rest of his family’s financial security. 6 years later, he is JUST getting back on his feet in his marriage finance-wise.
I think that a bare minimum age to start looking at engagement is between 21 and 23. For me personally, I still hold out to the idea of dating for 3 to 4 years, so I’ll probably get engaged when I’m about 24, and maybe get married around 25 or 26 – but that’s even assuming that my boyfriend now is really the right guy for me. I’m not sure of that yet. For those in their early, early 20s, I really think 3 or 4 years of dating is the bare minimum before engagement, as well as financial stability and independence.
For two 30-year-olds? by that age, most folks have gotten their financial affairs in order, they’ve had time to mature and be independent, and…in that case, maybe as little as 1-3 years of dating before an engagement.
But for me personally? I would never even think seriously of an engagement before dating someone for 2 years.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
well i don’t think many 20 year olds should be getting engaged at all – sure sometimes it works but more often it doesn’t – i was ready to marry my boyfriend of 2 years at 20 and we didn’t make it to 21…
i’ve had 2 other 2 year relationships since and would have married either in the first year and by year 2 i’d changed and they’d changed and we just weren’t compatible any more
i was only with my fiance for about 9 months by the time we got engaged but we planned on a 2 year engagement (5/2/10) so we’ve made it past that darn 2 year mark and we still click because we’ve experienced how we function in relationships and what will/won’t work not to mention we had our party/dating time, and we’re both in a place to settle down
as for 2 30 year olds, some a few months some a few years, it depends on the individuals experience and maturity levels, some 30 year olds have the mentality of 12 year olds, some 20 year olds have the maturity level of 40 year olds
it all depends on the couple…but i do think if it’s a short dating period it should be a longer engagemnt (but that’s just me!)
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
there’s no right or wrong amount of time to date someone before getting engaged. some couples could date for very short time and get engagaed and there are some couples who dated for a decade and yet not engaged. it depends on whether you know your partner well enough to take the next step into marriage.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
i hope this helps…. i met my fiance in Dec of 2006 and we starting dating lite for the first 2 Weeks… then we starting staying with each other, maybe 1 or 2 nights a week then after about a month a dating he was staying with me every night.. it was great..then after about 2 mths of him staying all the time i decided to have him moved in.. and then we finally got engaged about 2008.and are getting married this May 8 2010..
to answer you question- i would recommend at least living with your finance for at least a year.. only because that’s how long it really takes to know someone and you will then see a glimpse of what you marriage and future will be like.. if he’s sorry then,, he’ll be even more sorrier after your married!!
Hope this helps. Wish you all the best luck in the world!
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
i dont think there is any specific time. some people date for a few months, some do it for years. people do it when they feel it is right.
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
I honestly don’t think age matters.. If you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, then why wait??
July 26th, 2010 at 2:24 am
There is never an appropriate amount of time before getting engaged. Marriage only ruins a good relationship.