Ladies, when your man wants to marry you, does he buy an engagement ring and a wedding ring, or are they both the same thing? Do ladies prefer it when your mother or your grandmother gives you her wedding ring to have or do you prefer to have your own ring? When the time comes to buy the ring or rings, do you two normally go together or is this something the man has to do alone?
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March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
the engagement ring is a sign of marriage on the way and that she is taken. this ring can be whatever you want it to be. alot of girls opt for diamonds, but i wanted a natural blue sapphire for my center stone
depending if the ring was a significant heirloom, they may want their own. if you are ready to be engaged, im sure your gf has given you SOME hint about what she wants her ring to look like.
the wedding band is what is put on when you say your vowels. it is a complete circle that never ends and is described as your relationship and how your love is to never end. these two rings can be bought as a set or seperately. if they come as a set, you only give her the engagement ring and then show her the wedding band that goes with it. the last thing. you can decide to do this alone, but you can also have one of her friends who can keep a secret help out, or her mom. i helped pick out my ring. we bought it together, but he waited until he was ready to give it to me. so, you can also take her shopping with you for some ideas of what she really wants. just keep one very small thing in mind: IT’S NOT THE SIZE OF THE STONE IN THE RING, IT’S HOW MUCH YOU LOVE EACH OTHER !!! so if she tries to tell you she only wants a certain size or higher, and it’s out of your price range, and she won’t budge … then she’s not worth it.
March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
some e-rings are sold as a set and come with a wedding band that fits with it. some bands are called enhancers or wraps and they actually snap on and off the e-ring. but you can also buy an e-ring on its own and then choose a band later.
I don’t know how many of my friends picked out their ring but I think most of them had no hand in choosing it. Which I think is my fate, even tho I told my bf I don’t want a ring. I’m not into jewelry and all e-rings look the same to me honestly. I’d rather have a 3 row eternity band once I’m married, not some trite conventional e-ring that looks like everyone else’s setting.
March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
here is a set.
you give the diamond ring when you propose and when you stand before the preacher she gets the plain one. they are worn together.
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March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Usually the male buys just an engagement ring, but he can buy it as a set at some jewelry stores. He usually buys the engagement ring alone and surprises her with it by proposing. But most of the time the bride and groom go shopping together for a wedding ring set for both of them. I prefer my own ring, but some girls like the ring their grandmother or great aunt used – every girl is different.
March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
I would get a bridal set.
it comes with a wedding band and a engagement ring.
most women like new things, unless it’s a ring that has been passed down from generation to generation, so I would try to find those things out.
& you can find very beautiful, cheap bridal sets also.
I know my soon to be hubby done a wonderful job. So just ask questions, but don’t make it obvious. Say your helping a friend and get her to pick out one she likes.
It’s the oldest trick in the book, but it’ll work.
the two go together to look at them, but the man buys it alone and surprises her with it. You buy the wedding band alone also unless its a bridal set, and she will get yours alone, but you will have to tell her what hers looks like or you all will have non-matching wedding bands.
March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
An engagement ring is the ring you give your girlfriend when proposing. It is a sign that she is engaged to be married. Then you buy wedding bands for the wedding. These are exchanged between the bride and groom as a sign of their union.
Basically if you see a woman wearing an engagement ring, you know she’s engaged but not married yet. When you see her wearing either a wedding band or both a wedding band and an engagement ring, you know she is married.
The rings can be either family heirlooms or be bought especially. I assume many women prefer them bought especially as they can chose the design. However if a family heirloom has a beautiful history or i it means a lot to the man or woman, it might be better to use that one.
The engagement ring is traditionally bought by the man alone since it’s meant to be a surprise for his intended. However many couples now get that together to ensure the fiancee likes the ring. The wedding bands are normally chosen and bought by the couple together who can choose either matching bands or their own design.
March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
This is a great question, because rings are confusing.
When you propose and you give a ring, that’s an engagement ring. They are sold individually or in sets with matching wedding bands for him and her.
When you put rings on each other’s fingers during the ceremony, those are wedding rings. You could use the engagement ring as the wedding ring if you wanted. There are no rules.
As far as shopping for a ring goes, it just depends on you and your lady. I wouldn’t mind being surprised with a ring, but some women have very specific taste and want to give input/pick out their own.
I wouldn’t mind a family heirloom ring, but neither my mother nor my grandmother received an engagement ring! It wasn’t as common 30+ years ago as it is today.
March 17th, 2010 at 3:24 am
As people have said, an engagement ring is given at the point a couple decide they are going to get married. It’s a way of signalling that the woman is "taken" and no longer free to have boyfriends.
The tradition of engagement rings began in ancient Rome – have a look at this page if you want the full story :
http://www.explore-italian-culture.com/engagement-ring-tradition.html
and in those days there were no such things as wedding rings – the engagement ring also acted as a wedding ring. Originally the e-ring was plain metal; diamonds didn’t become popular till the 17th Century.
In those days, it was the man who did all the buying and giving, the women had nothing at all to do with it. Women these days may see that as being too ‘macho’ – most women want to have some say in what kind of ring they will get. After all, she will be wearing it for the rest of her life. Choosing it together is a sign that you want to share the decisions in your married life.
As for whether women prefer a family ring or not, that’s a matter of personal choice. My step-daughter has just been given her grandmother’s ring, but that’s because she and her fiance can’t afford their own ring at the moment. When they can, she wants her own and I think these days most women do.
In terms of wedding rings, again I think most couples nowadays would prefer to choose these together. Styles often have ‘his’ and ‘hers’ and it’s nice for husband and wife to have similar rings.
But it’s really mostly a matter of personal choice. My best advice would be to ask your fiancee what she would like best.