I told my BF I didn’t like diamonds, I wanted a blue topaz/sapphire engagement ring. His family mom/sisters are uppity, they have huuuge diamond rings.
I like the blue stone…Do you think people will think we are too poor to afford a diamond, even though it’s our choice to get a blue rock instead?
How do we make it look like an engagement ring instead of just a nice colored stone on my left ring finger?
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
I have a blue sapphire engagement ring! I’ve had no confusion from anyone about whether it was or was not an engagment ring, everyone understands. I would recommend a sapphire over a topaz due to the hardness of the gem and the fact that you’re wearing it on your hand. There are loads of fun options! Sapphire’s not my birthstone even, it’s just so pretty! I think diamonds are boring by themselves, which is why I love my ring! Who cares what his family thinks! You won’t look too poor to afford a diamond. I have a large oval sapphire surrounded by small diamonds…so you could do something like that. And tell his family that Princess Diana’s engagement ring was a sapphire, so there!
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
Who cares what others think? Do you!
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
When I see friends with colored stones, I just think they don’t like diamonds. Your engagement ring doesn’t have to look like an engagement right.
Just get whatever you like. If you love it, who cares what others think? 
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
Your ring should be something you like. I myself would love a ruby/diamond ring. Maybe you could find a ring with a few smaller diamonds on the band or either side of the colored stone.
Here’s a few images for ideas…
http://www.25karats.com/news/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/17152-300×300.jpg
http://pics.boards.weddingbee.com/63559.Sapphire_trellis_small.jpg.resize
http://images.doba.com/products/2426/images_S6737S_B.jpg
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
Well, look at it this way: If the color of your engagement ring is the only thing your future in-laws don’t like about you, you’re doing pretty well. It will cost more, but you could get a blue diamond… Or tell people that a sapphire is a blue diamond. >:)
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
I also found an aquamarine engagement ring that i would love. It’s my birthstone and beautiful. I don’t care what anyone thinks. yeah it’s cheaper than a diamond but it’s only meant to be a symbol. And on your left hand with a wedding band, any ring would look like an engagement ring. I say do it!
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
If I saw a girl wearing an engagement ring set with a blue topaz or a sapphire I would think that she either doesn’t care for diamonds or that she really likes blue or that it was her birth stone. I certainly wouldn’t look down on her for not having a diamond. If they get snotty or make rude comments you might suggest that they go and watch the movie "Blood Diamond" and see what people have to go through so that they can have a diamond engagement ring .
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
A couple of things.
1…It’s YOUR wedding ring, not your soon to be in-laws.
2…Don’t spend your life worrying about what others think.
If you want a topaz or sapphire wedding ring, that’s what you should have.
It’s you that has to wear it, and love it…right?
Congrats…
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
If you like it, then that’s all that matters.
However, if I didn’t know you, I would assume you were single and not engaged. When I see colored stones on the left hand, I think it’s just a cocktail ring or something without any particular symbolism. I wouldn’t assume you were an engaged women.
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
I almost got a blue topaz too. Its my fiance’s birth stone. To make it look more like an engagement ring, you could get a ring with diamond accents/side stones. That was what i was going to do!
Edit:
Some sapphires cost as much, if not more than diamonds.
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
The one and only question is… Do YOU care what other people might think? If you care, and you know how these people are, then get a ring to please them. Personally, I would have no problem getting a ring that pleases ME, and letting everyone else think whatever they like.
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
you are like me, i dont like diamonds either. My husband picked me out a topaz and opal ring.
and if you want to make it look like a wedding ring, just go and get a cheap, plain wedding ring from walmart to go on top of your ring.
my husband comes from a wealthy family, and his grandma’s ring is huge, but different people have different tastes. Just like even though i was a virgin, i didnt get married in white.
you dont have to keep up with tradition, and as long as you love your wedding band, it doesnt matter what other people say.
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=7754495
here is a link to a plain wedding band to go over your engagement ring.
that will make it look more like a wedding set and not just a ring, but also wont have you wearing any diamonds or anything.
June 26th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
You’d be in exellent company, the late Princess Diana had a blue sapphire e-ring.
I wear a brilliant red garnet framed by round champagne diamonds as an e-ring-it’s my husband’s birthstone. he could well have afforded a big ‘rock’ but I don’t care for diamonds unless they are colored…and his birthstone holds more meaning to me than a chunk of way overpriced compressed carbon.
No body has mistaken it for anything but my e-ring…what they have mistaken it for is a very large and expensive flawless ruby lol….
Look at blue ceylon sapphires-the color is intense and sapphires are almost as hard as diamonds so they will wear very well.